I will say this, the actions of these people don't really make me angry so much as they bore me. I'm bored of bad behavior and people with no manners. I am bored of holding a door open for someone and they walk through like it's my job to hold it for them and so they don't feel the need to say "Thank You". I'm bored of being polite and letting someone in on the road and not getting a wave to say "Thank You". Manners cost nothing! Despite all of this I still do these things. I guess no matter how bored or jaded you get about other peoples lack of manners you can't change who you are. Sure, when these things happen I shake my head and say to myself "WHY?". Sometimes I'm so glad I am unemployed and sit at home all day because I guarantee you, anytime I go out I have to deal with this and it just saddens me even more.
So really, that is all I have to say on the subject. Other than to say to all of you who stop by and read my blog:
You're welcome. I agree that it's getting old hearing about it. HOpefully all of this brings attention to people that it isn't cool to be rude.
ReplyDeleteYour post definately scores points with me. What happened to good old common courtesy. The world seems to be full of people who think everyone owes them something but they need not do anything in return and I am sick of it. And then if that isn't enough I'm expected to always be politically correct so as not to offend someone.
ReplyDeleteIt amazes me how some people have such little respect for others. And I agree with Ann, what happened with common courtesy? At least I've found wonderful, courteous bloggers to interact with!
ReplyDeleteI agree! It is embarrassing for our country that these things continue to receive so much attention.
ReplyDeleteThank YOU for choosing to be polite, we seem to be a dying breed!
ReplyDeleteYou're welcome, I enjoyed reading your blog. Bored isn't my word for it; frustrated I think fits my mood better. Like you I will keep letting people in, I will wave thank you (though I have to say, I get more waves of thanks from men then I do from women); but...I've decided some of it is ignorance. We, society collectively have decided it's easier not to say anything to these types of people. In the last few years, I've decided thats wrong. I think we need to let these people know they are jerks, they are wrong and their actions aren't appreciated.
ReplyDeleteWhen someone doesn't say thanks for holding a door, or giving way with grocery cart etc. I say You're welcome...with a bit of tone. I figure at the very least, they know I'm aware they should have said thanks. Maybe, just maybe they weren't taught to; and will think about it next time.
I even mouth your welcome in the car, and there are times when eyes meet and I know they know I know. I know they did get it.
When I'm out and a young clueless mother doesn't tell their child to stand up and let someone older sit down. I say directly to the child, you're young. Please stand so this gentlemen can sit. You have younger and stronger legs. I look directly at the clueless mother. The child always does by the way. Kid do want to please. I then say thank you to them. These are lesson the stupid mother should be teaching, but if she's not up to the task, then I say let's help her out for the sake of the child and for the sake of humanity in the future.
When a child sneezes and the mother doesn't have the common sense or good judgement to say cover your mouth. I do, and hand them a tissue. When I'm without, I've even made a joke of it. Said to the child pull you t-shirt away and sneeze inside. Kids like doing that. And it might just keep the rest of healthier.
I think if we look the other way, and allow them to exhibit bad behavior, to show no manners then we are in fact condoning it.
And maybe I've just gotten old enough, I've decided I've earned the right. lol
Sandy
Traveling Suitcase
you're welcome! lol
ReplyDeleteI think, now that I'm older and settled, that I should have had a bunch of kids, bec I would have made sure they had good manners. We need more people on this earth with some good sense and manners! {:-Deb
No, thank YOU!!!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. Unfortunately, good manners isn't a priority these days. You should meet some of the kids I tutor. *sigh*
You are SO right. It gets worse and worse the older I get...just Monday night I was talking to my oldest son about the lack of manners people have. I think it's sad people don't use better manners - OR - teach their kids to have manners. I'm over frustration...and to the point of boredom as well.
ReplyDeleteThank you for blogging about such a great topic - it's interesting! xx
It's sad, really it is. But I think I get my 'satisfaction' with the impolite because I'm a teacher, so if kids don't show their manners I can actually do something about it. In the general public though, I'm with you, I get really frustrated, but you come to expect it, so bored is the right term.
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your comments and of course, I was right about the people who read my blog...all polite.
ReplyDeleteSandy, I do the same if someone doesn't say thank you when I hold the door. Of course, they sometimes give you a dirty look but hey, it makes me feel better. I really should have had The Husband write about his dealings with rude people since it every day he comes in from work with at least one story. Maybe our small steps in being polite won't change the whole world but it's a start.
Thank you for highlighting this here in your post. I feel the same way...there is just so much rudeness out there it does get to be a bore. You have a wonderful blog and I'm glad to connect with people like you :-)
ReplyDeleteDon't let the fools get you down. Like you, I feel the rudeness level has increased and it discourages me. But if we give up being polite, we have nowhere to go but down. Instead, I try to embrace those who are nice and polite. We have to ignore the fools and give attention to those who are kind.
ReplyDeleteA big "Amen " to that!
ReplyDeleteWhen I heard of the above fiasco, the first thing that came to my mind was that he obviously was not raised with any manners!
Awesome post! I totally agree, not only does the rudeness get old but I get sick of the whole "celebrity highjinks" thing too. I much prefer it when celebrities act like the regular people they really are--after all, the only difference between us and them is they've got cameras in their faces all the time, right?
ReplyDeleteEric Dodge has an awesome song on this subject called What A Concept, check it out here: www.myspace.com/ericdodge
Hurray! I can't say how much I agree with you! Bad behaviour seems to be "acceptable" now and it drives me nuts! As for when you hold the door for someone and they walk through with no thank you, I would say to them "You're welcome" loud enough for all to hear (but not shouting). It usually gets some response like "Oh, I'm sorry! Thanks! or How thoughtless of me. Thank you!" Once in a while I get the "evil eye" or someone else will reprimand the bad conduct. It's almost always someone elderly who does the reprimanding. ANyway, that's my whole 2 cents on that subject!
ReplyDelete